Heal the hurt.

"Heal the hurt. Don't hide the pain."

Melanie Moushigian Koulouris
The Way to Save a Marriage After an Affair

I have shared a great deal of guidance and personal experiences about the union in this site, and lots of readers just like you've reacted with excellent stories, questions, and hints of their own which have made the site articles much better. However, the remarks that grip me over some other are the really unguarded expressions of pain from people at a marriage that is damaging. That harm might come in years of crucial words, withholding of physical affection, a continuing lack of familiarity, or general negligence in a union. These contributing factors can complicate your efforts to fix your marriage.

Wounds at a union, large or small, may be tricky to manage. During a recent conversation with a buddy that has been navigating through several painful things in his own union, I understood that there is a significant decision that confronts every single man and woman when coping with those wounds in the union. Each husband and wife could either opt to cover festering wounds within their own relationship and protect against recovery or choose to introduce these wounds and promote recovery.